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Are you confused by parenting advice from experts who contradict each other Concerned about the possible effects of being a working mother Terrified of turning into your own parentsParents today are overwhelmed with elaborate advice on how to raise babies In How Not to F Them Up leading child psychologist Oliver James argues that it's not our children that must be trained it's usMeticulously researched inspiring and yet provocativ James s book is well written with lots of evidence uoted to back up his view I also found it really useful reading about the different types of mother and how your own childhood experience affects your parenting not always in the ways you would predict However I did find that his attitude to classincome no one on a low income will be reading this book anywayreally distasteful and I would have liked to have seen on the ways you can mitigate the effects of day care or evaluate its uality Unfortunately as a parent who can t afford a nanny and has no family members nearby it s left me feeling very guilty about childcare plans however at least I am informed I guess Planet of the Bugs usMeticulously researched inspiring and yet provocativ James s book is well written with lots of evidence Fishes of the Open Ocean uoted to back Out of Bounds (Boundaries, up his view I also found it really Grass, Sky, Song useful reading about the different types of mother and how your own childhood experience affects your parenting not always in the ways you would predict However I did find that his attitude to classincome no one on a low income will be reading this book anywayreally distasteful and I would have liked to have seen on the ways you can mitigate the effects of day care or evaluate its Otter Chaos! (Otter Chaos uality Unfortunately as a parent who can t afford a nanny and has no family members nearby it s left me feeling very guilty about childcare plans however at least I am informed I guess

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How Not to F Them Up

E How Not to F Them Up raises important uestions about the way in which we bring up our children Do we as a society provide enough support for parents How has the role of the father changed in recent years Can a working mum ever reconcile her career with her family lifeDrawing on extensive interviews James identifies three basic types of mum the Hugger the Organiser and the Fleximum Outlining the benefits and pitfalls of each Jame I found his attitude towards low income mothers offensive and downright classist This book is nothing like They f you up I guess it s only mildly useful if you re an upper middle class married woman with an interest in mommy wars but it will teach you nothing about child psychology I was a fan of Oliver James but this book was extremely disappointing Fire and Desire uestions about the way in which we bring The Forgotten Memoir of John Knox up our children Do we as a society provide enough support for parents How has the role of the father changed in recent years Can a working mum ever reconcile her career with her family lifeDrawing on extensive interviews James identifies three basic types of mum the Hugger the Organiser and the Fleximum Outlining the benefits and pitfalls of each Jame I found his attitude towards low income mothers offensive and downright classist This book is nothing like They f you The Illusionists up I guess it s only mildly Planet of the Bugs useful if you re an Fishes of the Open Ocean upper middle class married woman with an interest in mommy wars but it will teach you nothing about child psychology I was a fan of Oliver James but this book was extremely disappointing

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S offers simple strategies to reconcile parents' personal ambition and desire for a career with the needs of the family and maintaining a worklife balanceBy challenging our ingrained and often flawed beliefs James shows us how our own childhood experiences can impact on our perception of 'the family' and how ultimately we can provide the happy and stable environment that all babies and toddlers need regardless of our own upbringin interesting in parts but overly simplistic and most case examples seemed to come from a very affluent London centric bubble tried to make me feel very bad about my choice out of limited options of nursery care for my children when they were younger however according to him I am able to do the mental gymnastics necessary to sleep at night I think his view that the world is going to get better is hopelessly naive Most mothers I have spoken to are pragmatic aware that there are limited choices and we just have to make the best we can out of these Yes it would be fabulous if the working world were so arranged that I could be paid to take 3 years per child out of work and be guaranteed my job at the end of that plus enough of a pension at the end of my working life but until that nirvana exists stop blaming individual women for the decisions they are forced to make in a world designed by men for some men The Forgotten Memoir of John Knox us how our own childhood experiences can impact on our perception of 'the family' and how The Illusionists ultimately we can provide the happy and stable environment that all babies and toddlers need regardless of our own Planet of the Bugs upbringin interesting in parts but overly simplistic and most case examples seemed to come from a very affluent London centric bubble tried to make me feel very bad about my choice out of limited options of nursery care for my children when they were younger however according to him I am able to do the mental gymnastics necessary to sleep at night I think his view that the world is going to get better is hopelessly naive Most mothers I have spoken to are pragmatic aware that there are limited choices and we just have to make the best we can out of these Yes it would be fabulous if the working world were so arranged that I could be paid to take 3 years per child out of work and be guaranteed my job at the end of that plus enough of a pension at the end of my working life but Fishes of the Open Ocean until that nirvana exists stop blaming individual women for the decisions they are forced to make in a world designed by men for some men


10 thoughts on “How Not to F Them Up

  1. says:

    Don't get me wrong there's a goodly scattering of interesting and sometimes worthwhile ideas in this book But James knows dangerously little about birth or infant feeding which are kind of relevant to infant existence without seeming to realise He does at least say up front that his book is not about working clas

  2. says:

    James's book is well written with lots of evidence uoted to back up his view I also found it really useful reading about the different

  3. says:

    I could rant about this book but lets just keep it simple They need to change the title of this book to i'm wealthy heres

  4. says:

    I read this book whilst my wife was pregnant We now have a happy 5 month old little man In a nutshell there are

  5. says:

    I'm SO glad I read this book I had no idea I was doomed to be a crap parent because my parents like all other parents were crap too I further had no idea that it was obligatory to hire an Eastern European nanny an

  6. says:

    I found his attitude towards low income mothers offensive and downright classist This book is nothing like They f you up I guess it's only mildly useful if you're an upper middle class married woman with an interest in mom

  7. says:

    This is an interesting expansion of his earlier work 'Affluenza' which I love and most likely 'They F You Up' which I haven't read Oliver James presents readers with three types of mother the Hugger the Organiser and the Fleximum To over simplify and summarise the Hugger is a stay at home Earth Mother the Organiser is a career oriented user

  8. says:

    interesting in parts but overly simplistic and most case examples seemed to come from a very affluent London centric bubble tried to make me feel very bad about my choice out of limited options of nursery care for my children when they were younger however according to him I am able to do the 'mental gymnastics' necessary to sleep at night I think his view that the world is going to get better is hopelessly naive Most mothers I have spoke

  9. says:

    If I could have given a 2 a half I would have I found this book interesting and do agree with some of his theories if not all however I thought it was badly written and felt like it had been rushed and not edited properly There's uite a lot

  10. says:

    This book is going to be upsetting for some because of the authors comments about day care and working mumshowevveeerrr as a work from home hugger style mum I found his confirmation that I am doing the right thing and advice about how to ignore the freuent critiue I get from organiser style mums very affirming a